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Success Tips Part 1

Many books come out advising people on how to be successful ! Here are few tips which I found useful and which I try and practice in my life.  This is my perception, you may differ because everyone thinks differently.

1. To be a winner  you need to be sure that you are one. Losers might think you have delusions of grandeur, but the fact remains that unless you think and live like a winner you will never become one.

2. Attitude – Get it right. Learn to ignore comments and unworthy criticisms. Show the world what you are.

3. Look into the eyes – while talking to people, look directly into their eyes. Never put your head down unless you have done something bad.

4. Accept your mistakes even before someone points it out and rectify them. Never leave too much room for others to enter into your territory because of your flaws and mistakes.

5. There is no mistake in talking about yourself. Provided, you have enough to talk about. Otherwise just keep your mouth shut. In this new world, very rarely others would talk for you.

6. To make others talk about your plus points, you may start talking about them. Put some words of encouragement, acknowledge their good work etc.

7. Never expect anything back from anyone. Do things because you feel the other person deserves it and it if it is justified. Give respect and take respect.

8. Have lot of friends. But do not make everybody close to you. Have a bunch of good friends whom you trust to share your tensions and secrets.

9. Always anticipate that somebody might back-stab you. If someone does, never bother much, but plan in advance how to come out and just execute the plan.  If it is a dear friend, give him chances to come back to you. And still he chooses to be against you, leave the issue and move forward, because you are born to win. Surprise people with your anticipation skills.

10. Rumors and Gossips about you….??? just enjoy them with a light heart.  Let you be the point of discussion among others always.  That shows that you can influence the thoughts of even your opponents.  Never Bother to retaliate. Because doing so is like throwing mud up and waiting for that to fall on you.

11. Having a bunch of winners around you as your friends makes you stronger. Encourage each other and finish the race together.

12. Having a bunch of losers around you is also recommended, because in a competition somebody should be there to finish last when you and your friends are the winners.

13. People say ‘Early Bird Catches the worm’ But according to me: Be just on time. Never be early, Never be too late for anything. Waiting is the most unfruitful thing you can do. But of course, enjoy waiting for your best friends or dear ones. But never in your professional life.

14. Be spontaneous and innovative. Any moron can come up with ideas if you give him a life time. But to be a winner in this new world you need to be fast and think out of the box.

15. Allow people to Judge you and your work. But finally if you decide to make a change you should be first convinced about the judges and judgment.

16. Hang around with birds of the same feather. A lot of positive support will cheer you up and enhance the quality of your life.

17. Once in a while hang around with friends who have different tastes also. Because you need to know about others also to be a winner/leader.

18. Keep your trust in God. Have a good spiritual life and dedicate enough time for The Almighty and indulge in charity work.

19. Never bother about saving each and every paisa. Allow your purse to leak once in a while. Some Donations, hosting a party for friends, buying someone a gift etc. will never push you down. Watch out for the brownie points to be earned in life. Because you cannot and should not live as an individual only. Think about the people around you always.

20. Do not worry about people who don’t like you. But care about all the people who are with you and keep the doors open for everyone. Remember in life there is nothing like lifelong enemies.

21. Allways have something to do or something to look forward to. Never sit idle and gossip like losers. Plan your career and life in advance but anticipate twists and the worst outcomes also.

22.  Don’t get tensed by whatsoever. Remember the main difference between a winner and loser is this one. Even if a loser has done all his work the night before his interview/test/presentation he will get tensed up and perform average. A born winner even if the effort put in is less, because of his cool approach will succeed more often.

23. Fortune favours the brave, so take chances and risks if you want to succeed. Come out of your comfort zone.

24. Take your life seriously but give a lot of room for fun and enjoyment. Be witty and jovial always. Losers can never be so.

25. Most importantly learn how to take defeat ! Anticipate failures !!! Cope up with them and move forward. Being successful doesn’t mean that you should win allways. But consider failures as stepping stones and move forward.

26. Allow people to defeat you at times. Enjoy when you loose. Because they are the best opportunities to learn and keep your feet on earth.

All the Best Friends !!!!!

I am who I am
Who else would I be
I won’t change for you
So why change for me
I won’t waste my life
Being someone I can not be
Because I’m not a fake
Unwilling to break
Get used to what you see
I’m going to be me

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2010 – Indeed has been the year of Violence !! A very lucky one for me !!! Here is a list of 100 moments which i could think of  in the past year !! May be i’ve missed few events please excuse my ‘hyper’glycemia  and ‘hyper’ tension on a New Year Day :p

1.       Thank God

2.       2nd year Practical Exam

3.       Vacation Get together at Roshans House

4.       Veegaland, Athirapally, Cherai Trip with Rv and Davi

5.       Mad Ads, Mime – Victory at JNC 2010

6.       Aunt sr. Meletia’s Golden Jubilee Celebrations

7.       Committee Taking Over

8.       Muse  2010 – Staff Council Presentation

9.       Watching Sachin’s 200 runs in ODI (in St. Johns Rec Room , with Nitin and others)

10.   Grandfathers sudden Demise

11.   ICS – Clean Sweep by 2007

12.   ICS- Hockey Finals

13.   Sports day 2010

14.   Laugh Out Loud Victory- in St. Josephs after the MCC incident

15.   High Tea, in the mess

16.   Summer Carnival 2010

17.   College Retreat at Kengeri

18.   EASTER 2010 – at home

19.   Vagamon drive and Pilgrimage with Dilip, Gilin, Kiran and KV

20.   Easter Dinner

21.   Mess: Tea with H.E Francis kallarackal

22.   ICC – The Hungama

23.   ICC – 2007 Champions

24.   ICC – Mad Ads

25.   Campus Dinner, in Lawns

26.   Graduation Night for 2003

27.   Kantheerva stadium – Nike Face OFF

28.   Batch Treat at Paramount Roof Top

29.   Muse Meetings in my room & B- MID

30.   Johnite Premier League Season 2 – the success and controversies

31.   Release of JOHNITE SCREAMER

32.   IPL – Finals – Big Screen Telecast in Mess

33.   Mannar Church Mother Mary’s Feast – May 2010

34.   Muse Sponsorship hunt

35.   CHAP – Rural Part

36.   Adventurous Trip with Sheldon from Mugalur to Blore during CHAP

37.   Autumn Muse 2010 (Cultural and sports Fest)

38.   MUSE ROCK 2010 – parikrama and Avial

39.   LOR Treat by Dr. Andrew

40.   Getting Stuck on the flyover at 4 AM with Davis’s Car (+ Nitin)


42.   Room Parties – with batch mates/seniors and some violent Babies

43.   Movies at Shivajinagar with Rv, Jyothis, Narayan etc

44.   Autumn Muse Success Party 2010 – In mess

45.   Batch Trip to Coorg

46.   Kolar SDUMC FEST – Victory

47.   Kolar Car Accident & The Drive Back

48.   Various Other College Fests

49.   Mad Med Show 2010

50.   Ithu Seri Na ? Skit for Com. Med Dept

51.   Onam dinner 2010

52.   Papa, Mummy, and Kunjai – VISIT TO BLORE FOR ONAM

53.   Onam Celebrations with – Cousins, Uncles, Parents at Bijo’s house

54.   Muse 2010 – Final Presentation at Directorate

55.   Family Trip Calicut – Palaghat

56.   Christmas Vacations 2010 at Home

57.   Family Reunion and Grandmas First Death Anniversary in October 2010

58.   SKPS BATCH REUNION at Linsu’s House on 27th Dec.

59.   Bangalore Visit by SKPS Friends – Dileep, Rahul, Rony,  Kiran, Jasmine

60.   Planning and executing Jingle Rock 2010 – The HIT

61.   Jingle Rock Meeting at the Directorate

62.   3rd year University Theory  Exams

63.   Party after Pepsico Payment

64.   Batch party at Florence’s House

65.   Dr. Anil’s Treats

66.   Combined Study with RV for Com. Med Paper 2 Univs.

67.   Prelims Practs Combined Study with – Jeff and Omkar

68.   Moments with Mad Med Men Jnrs Team

69.   December 31st – Dinner with Rv and Mathew at Blue Petal

70.   B’day Celebrations 2010

71.   Lunch Buffet with RV and Babu on 15th Sept at Shelton Grand

72.   Misc abrupt decisions with Ja Ja Ja regarding Committee , Muse etc

73.   Batch Meetings with 2009 Batch

74.   Teachers day Celebrations 2010

75.   Sr. sahaya’s B’day Celebrations

76.   Christmas Mass and post mass Get-together at St. Johns on 25th Dec.

77.   Misc Mess Table Talks

78.   Campus day 2010 Skit with Sr. Beenama and Team

79.   The attendance shortage issue, Classes that I attended in CG 116 + The ones I got Proxy !!!

80.   Grand Alumni Reunion in Mess

81.   Alumni Reunion of 82 Batch in Manipal County and MMM Performance

82.   Marathon at st. Thomas and the BIG ARGUMENT

83.   Night before Muse Rock with Avial Band in their Hotel Room

84.   The sleepless nights Before Muse

85.   The 12 hour long continuous work for the Muse Boucher

86.   Designing of the Muse Posters and Invites the day before Rural Chap Staying awake all night, in the Comm. Office

87.   Hour long conversations with Dr. Binu, regarding Muse

88.   Meetings with – Dr. Kuttappa, Dr. Nachiket, Dr. Mary,  Dr. Anil, Dr. Anuradha

89.   Meetings with – Fr. Lawrence, Fr. Mathew

90.   Getting Diagnosed as Hypertensive !!!

91.   Meetings with – Dean, Dr. Sandhya, Dr. Varghese

92.   Several Saturday Meetings with Prabhu ’03 before Muse

93.   Various End Off Postings in 2010 – especially Paeds

94.   The Late Night Talk with Dr. Binu, Dr. Reji and Dr. Preetesh after the Alumni Party !!

95.   Partying with – Mess workers, various other staff of St. Johns

96.   Alex Manoj Mathews – drummer Boy a great Friend and Senior

97.   Work with Dr. ramesh on the Research Journal Website

98.   Go Karting, Edge, Paramount Roof Top etc. with my Friends

99.   My batch mates, babies, friends, well wishers especially the fellow Committee Members

100.   Time spend thinking about Everyone who hates me !!

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Be thou the Twentieth Muse , much more glorious than the previous Nineteen. (Shaksphere, with a little twist from my Side)

300 days and Still counting ! It has been a tough journey – a roller coaster ride indeed with lots of thrill, enough humps and bumps too in its course. At this point Let me humbly place on record our sincere gratitude to everyone who made this Ride – AUTUMN MUSE 2010 memorable and so successful.

Our beloved Director – Rev. Fr. Lawrence Dsouza from his busy schedule managed to spend hours with us for the success of Muse. We had long meetings and discussions at his office often from March 2010 to analyze each and every step in our Muse. Out of his vast experience he could guide us perfectly on how to manage such a huge event. Having your Director literally on your side especially during crucial moments was a great relif. When about 3000 + people where getting restless outside the gate for Muse Rock as we could not start on time due to Technical errors, Rev. Fr. Director intervened and took a lot of pressure from our shoulders.  We knew our Director and Management were with us. He gave us confidence to manage the commotion and go ahead.  The Result everything was so successful. Rev. Fr. Lawrence always used to remind us “This event is name of St. Johns and we should not let our name go down” And now proudly we can say we kept up to this.

Rev. Fr. Glen Mascheranes, we have troubled him several times with our  doubts about accounting, legal issues and so on. He gave us permission to walk up to him and consult him on any such issue any time. It was our luck and privilege to take tips from this real genius on how to go about sponsorship proposals and accounting for Muse.

Rev. Fr. Immanuel Raj,  silent in Muse Meetings  when we talk our crazy plans, used to add at the end very valid and highly important points which everyone would have missed. And these saved us many a times and showed us the track when we were about to be lost.

Rev. Fr. Prakash was present with us in every single meeting.  He made it a point to take our side always and give confidence every time a doubt on our capacity to go on a bigger scale was raised. Many a times he walked into Lawns during his evening walk to know where the preparations have reached.

Ofcourse, Without our beloved ADC, Autumn Muse 2010 would not happened in this Scale. Right from the first meeting in his office on March 3rd, 2010 with our mentors Rev. Fr. Mathew was involved in Muse thorough out  as much as any of our committee members. We have troubled him a lot with late night phone calls for permissions and what not. It was always last minute that we used to walk into his office and ask for advance money sanctioning, signatures etc. But he never had an issue and all we got was ‘OK’ s to all our plans ! Apart from all this, who will forget the Associate director who didn’t refuse when all the students wanted him to be on the ramp during Muse Hues ! We got our new Students Association Office and the Muse Office (Musuem) only because of Fr. Mathew ! Big Thanks to you from all of us for giving us FREEDOM and trusting us with that.

Dr. Prem Pais, Dr. Sandhya T  Avadhany, Dr. Karuna RameshKumar all were part of our planning process towards Muse from Day 1. Dean used to eagerly enquire about the preparations and sponsor responses. And For the Name of the Festival remaining Still as “AUTUMN MUSE” all the Johnites owe Our Dean .  Dr. Sandhya was kind enough to discuss with us as early as in December 2009, when she prepared the academic calendar and created a window for Muse in August, if we could get the permissions.  At various stages of preparation for Muse, she enquired the progress and encouraged us to do our best. Thanks to her constant reminders we didn’t forget the fact that we are medical Students and have to study also and attend classes in spite of busy Muse work. Dr. Karuna, more than a vice Dean, was a true Autumn Muse Fan when it was conducted in the olden days. We realized that she was one of our strong support from the Faculty side to bring Muse back to Johns in a much refined way.

Our committee was blessed with four excellent and enthusiastic mentors. Often they were beyond the level of teachers, interacting and spending a lot of time with us as if all of them were of our age group and one among us. I’m sure they took Muse to heart as much as we did.

Dr. Kutappa right from making the first monetary contribution to Autumn Muse, he stood with us till the end. Must admit that about half of the Raffles tickets and a good chunk of Muse Rock tickets went through his contacts and that was a big boost initially when we were struggling to get enough money. Also when we ran out of money he offered even his credit card to make several important on spot payments. Without considering his health condition he always took the Extra bit to help us. We learned that he cancelled his UK trip also for being with us during our tough times before Muse. I recollect 4 days before Muse he was admitted in Hospital and when I went to meet him, he wanted me to give him few More Muse Rock tickets so that he could sell those to friends who are visiting him. Finally, much against his Cardiologist’s advice he came for Muse Rock 2010 and stayed throughout just to help us and ensure that the show goes on well ! Hats off to you Sir !

Dr. Anuradha Ananthamurthy always made it a point to ensure that we have a proper plan before we commit to any proposal what so ever. She listened carefully to our plans and then gave her suggestions at each point. Even when we got busy and failed to update she used to make the extra effort to ring us and follow up the progress.

Dr. Nachiket Shankar, our favourite right from First Year became our Mentor and that made all of us even closer to him. We used to look upon him for those extra guts to take bold decisions at times. He filled us with courage to face criticism and deal people who were trying to demoralize us at various stages. We all had a great comfort level with him and often could be free as if we were with an elder brother. He ensured that we account everything for the sake of future batches also and insisted on sending him mails on minutes and abstracts of each meeting. I’m sure this would help all the future committees, because from our mistakes there are a lot to be learned.

Dr. Mary Varghese took care of us like how a mother would do. At certain times, when we were over exerting ourselves, pushing ourselves to the limits… Dr. Mary used to intervene and reminded us to take care of our health and state. Her phone calls reassuring us that things will be all right made a lot of difference. There are days in which I thought few of us might go into some nervous break down. If it was not for Dr.Mary’s presence at those trouble times things would have been different. She got worried when people around were criticizing and questioning our credibility. She had full confidence in us that we would pull this out somehow. Believe Me, Only Mothers trust you this much. She was our source of all the optimism we had !

Dr. Binu Joy and Dr. Anil Abraham two veteran Johnites were adopted as our ‘Muse Mentors’ by the batch of 2007. Since then they both were with us and our actual Committee mentors working towards the Big Goal.

Binu Joy and Jino Joy the rhyme in names may be just a coincidence but the common interests and also common ailments (diagnosed Hypertension during Commettieship) made us bond together in this work. I haven’t talked over phone for such long hours to no other faculty member in Johns. Hour long discussions at various occasions often changed the course of Muse Preparations.  Being a Johnite to the core and more over a very successful General Secreatry in the past who conducted one of the best and biggest muses in history, he was the right person to take opinions from. It’s said ‘Strike the Iron when it is hot’. Dr. Binu was the perfect man who could tell us when to Strike. We struck and it worked.

Dr. Anil Abraham – ‘Al’ ways a Johnite was the Faculty Mentor of our Sponsorship Secretary and as the Muse Work started became a mentor for all of us too. We experienced his support and guidance in all the events our committee organized and especially our Muse. Not to forget the huge sponsorship amount he got in, single handedly through his contacts. These promises gave us confidence to scale up our fest even without having a big brand initially with us. Also, he constantly reminded us about the importance of Scoring Marks in the Internal Examinations and ‘prove a point’ to many. Thanks to his daily inspirational messages, we all managed to do quite well in our Internals that came few weeks before Muse.

Dr. Varghese, Mr. Appanna, Mr. RajaRao, and their team were in charge of the security and general discipline. All credit to them for managing it so well. On a personal note, Dr. Varghese was like a mentor for me who helped me handle various problems and people that I had to face during Muse Work and even otherwise.

The chairman of Staff Council Dr. Ravi Nair, Dr. Reji Koshy, Dr. Bobby Joseph, Dr. Arun Shet were few others who were always available for us with their support and advice.

On the sponsorship front, Dr. Anura Kurapad the man behind the name ‘Autumn Muse’ , gave the contacts to our title sponsors to christen muse this time as – ‘Pepsico Autumn Muse’. Dr. Mosses Dsouza coordinated a lot of Pharmacology Companies for us and also got in our co-sponsors Caffe Mateo.  Dr. Andrew Vaisnaik was our contact point to Titan Fast Track (Co-Sponsors). Dr. Andrew always occupied a special place in the hearts of 2007 Batch Johnites for the special care and affection he has shown to our batch.

Dr. G. D. Raveendran, Dr. Brian Martis, Dr. Carol Dsouza, The UK Alumni Chapter, The Alumni from 1983 Batch,  Dr. Dominic, Dr. Preetesh are names to mention a few among Johnites who helped us in organizing Autumn Muse this year.

Our Physical Director Mr. Ramanujappa and his men ensured the success of all the sports events. Even when there was a lack of communication on our side, he handled the sports arrangements most efficiently. Preparing Grounds at two completely different venues was not at all an easy task. With limited staff, time and resources he did a great job.

Muse 2010 was possible because of the support of lot of other people in Johns. Sr. Sahaya, Secretary to ADC with all the help and the valuable prayers was part of our team indeed. All the staff from ADC Office, Directors Office and Deans Office made our life much easier with their helping hands and good will. Sr. Spesiosa and her team at the Students Section special thanks for acting as the crucial links for many official works in administration. Also it was for her kind heart that we could use the Museum as our Muse Office.

Handling about Rupees 30 Lakhs and keeping track of that was not at all an easy task. We were particular in accounting every single rupee and that would not have been possible without the support of Mr. James and Team from Accounts Section. Mr. Mathew , Mr. George and their team from Estate section ensured the electricity, maintenance works,  transport arrangements etc. were done in time. Not to forget the other staff, contract workers, Mess Staff, Drivers, Security Staff etc.

Mr. Francis from Total Productions took care of our Stage, Light and Sound Settings and made our fest an audio visual treat by bringing in the latest and most sophisticated processors, consoles and light sets.  A good friend, a humble human being – Francis, it was our privilege to work with you. Mr. Satish and Team (Arjun Electricals) and Mr. Ahamad (Buzzintown – Ticket Partners) also were ready to help us in all possible way to conduct the best show in town.

Big thanks to Parkrama and Avial for graciously accepting our Invitation and performing for us at Muse Rock 2010. Mr. Subir Malik and Mr. Aditya Jha who represented these bands were kind enough to adjust with our limitations and even slash their rates for St. Johns specially.

Among our sponsors a big round of applause for Ms. Swetha from Pepsi who flew down from Delhi only to vitness and attend our fest. Mr. ParthaSarathi (Mac Sterling Group), Mr. Aravind Padhi (UB Group), Mr. Prashanth(Kingfisher Airlines), Mr. Anshool (Fast Track). Thank you all for helping Muse make happen in a big way.

Well, Muse would not have been possible without the support of my fellow Johnites. All the batches came together and worked keeping all the fights and egos away for the college fest. This was something which never happened in the history. Thank you all !

Thank you batch of 2007 and my dear committee members for giving your 100% for Muse. As the designated leader I used to demand a lot from you all in terms of work and your time. Blame it on my Hypertension I was really short tempered especially on the days of Muse. There were incidents when I had shouted at few but big thanks for understanding me then. Special thanks to Avian, Nitin, Andrew, Davis, Swathi, Roshan and Joseph. Avian I appreciate your patience that you showed while working with me. Nitin the Cul Sec had to manage more than just Cultural Events including Security Issues, Sponsorship Deals, Press and Media handling etc.  That was too much of contribution from a typhoid stricken Cultural Secretary. Andrew and Davis, along with few others had to be present for all the brainstorming sessions is B-206 prior to Muse. Apart from all the general work and help, they managed Alympics so fantastically making it even bigger than the cultural Fest. Swathi, had no option but to sit and learn Corel Draw prior to Muse.  She had to coordinate the decoration team, bring out newsletters every day and finally Post Muse took up the tedious task of bringing out this Souvenir. The Mess boys Joseph and Roshan managed the stalls with out any mess. Kudos ! Really proud to be the President of such a wonderful team !!!!

Manu Abraham (2006), the 2009-10 president gladly accepted to be the co-organizing chairman for the Fest and found time even during his final year studies for Muse. Pranit Raj(07) and Ravikanth Reddy (06 ,Vice – President) managed the accounts with professionalism. They had to sacrifice all the fun and excitement to do their work because they had to be in the accounts room on all 4 days.

Anoop, Ryan, Babush, Jobin, Mathew, Abel, Maridas, Macky, Royson, Milen, Roshni, Henry, Abhilash and others ensured the sports went on smoothly. There were no issues from the Sports Complex that bothered me ever. Jeeson and Jeffry were in charge of all the Printing. Right from the brilliant back drop to  the daily newsletters they ensured everything were done in time and properly. Annie, Lavina, Serin, Krupa,Chris, Priyanka, Priya, Nayanthara at the registration desk did a wonderful Job. Thanu, with hospitality cordiantion and Sneha at Announcers Desk also played their parts perfectly. Florence coordinated the Food Stalls work with her ‘Mal’ Boys – Roshan and Joseph. The target of one lakh from stalls was put in front of them two days before Muse and well, they got in much more than that in no time.  Pre Muse, the invites and pre invites which were send were coordinated by Annie, Anna, Chris and others.   From 2008 Batch Sharan, Anand John, Victor,  Henry Kurian, Aubery, Bharadwaj, Anna, Nobin, Jobin and others worked with us for the success of Muse at various stages. Pravin, Anna , Samrat, Shanti, Liza and many others worked with Swathi and Victor to create  all the wonderful pieces of Decoration. Thanks to all help from my baby juniors – batch of 2009, especially backing up when we got busy with Internal Exams and Chap.  Cheers to Roshan, Gitanjali, Kurian, Jerry, Karan, Carl, Emmanuel, Nikhil, Amit and others!!

Sheldon, the sponsorship secretary deserves a special mention for his brilliant coordination with the sponsors. He did the research, got the contacts, scheduled meetings, did follow ups and everything that had to be done to get the BIG money come in. All that I had to do was to prepare the presentations and go do the talking part as per the fixed appointments. The graceful presence of Priyanka and of a cranky Cultural Secreatry Nitin made our sponsorship team complete.

Specially remembering and thanking the sisters of my batch who prayed a lot for all of us and came forward to do all the possible help from their side especially on the days of Festival.

Batch of 2005 (My Committee) and Batch of 2003 (My Grand Committee) along with other seniors of 2002, 2004 were always there to correct and guide us. Specially acknowledging  Abey(05),   Arun Jude (05), Tony(04), Murtuza(05), Paul (03), Sendhil (03), Glen (03), Prabhu (03), Danny(03), Nikhil (06) and others. Also thanking  ‘the drummer boy’ Dr. Alex Manoj Mathews for all his support and for the wonderful opening act at Muse Rock 2010.

Hmmm…. Already this article has gone too long….   I wish I could write here many other names here and write about all their help individually.  But I have to restrict myself here. Please know that all of you were important to us and together we made MUSE Possible. Now I’m truly convinced by the good old saying ‘Team work Makes Dreams work’.

I have no words to describe how blessed we were by the ALL MIGHTY. Thanking HIM for the choicest blessings He showered. The divine intervention was felt at each stage. Everything during Muse was just falling into place on its own often. This was nothing but the grace of Almighty. Thank you Dear God, for blessing us so abundantly. All Praise and Honor to thee !

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One of my friends told me there are only two classes of people in this world. He had few names to quote and told me that people belong to only two classes talkers or doers. Well I could not agree much with that and hence decided to share few of my thoughts with you all. According to me, there are not two, but three classes of people broadly – 1) Talkers 2) Doers 3)Others. The third category will have two unique ‘L’ groups – Losers and Leaders. 

The argument goes there are people who talk nicely but fail to execute. And of course as much is said about them there are people who do not talk anything much but ‘DO’ things well. Generally people are biased that the second category people ‘doers’ are much better than mere ‘talkers’. Even the good old saying goes like this – “Talk less and Work More”. But for me both these categories are ‘winners’ in their on ways. Both talkers and doers can win battles even. Remember inspirational words by Mr. Churchill made a country win the war. At the same time due credit goes to the men who executed the mission too.

If you talk well, even without doing anything especially in a country like India you can survive. To add on to that, even if you do really bad things if you know how to talk and handle the situation you can often escape the embarrassment and consequences. I have read somewhere – “Every fraud on this planet is blessed with one gift – the gift being his tongue”.

 If you are a guy who can execute things brilliantly but not so good at your speaking skills still you will get your recognition and appreciation, though it might take a while or even few years for people to realize your presence. And the fame might last longer than for ‘talkers’.

Now how about being not good at both? You neither can talk well nor do. Then the title would say – Looser! When I say not good talkers, I include the people who talk a lot of nonsense and absolute rubbish. They indeed are talkers but, sorry that non-sense talkers for me goes into the class of losers. People who crib also are talkers but are still contenders for the Losers Category. Don’t they say that Empty Vessels make more noise! There are people who talk rubbish or who do not take part in any of those conversations as such or who prefer to be silent always and still do not do anything productive. This includes who just sits in a room 24*7 watches some movies, reads ‘those’ magazines always, eat , puke it out, eat again and sleep…. get up… eat…. !!!

And then the people belonging to the other ‘L’ Category – LEADERS ! I feel there are men in this world who can talk well and do things effectively. May be they do not execute everything that they preach. But still there are people who do productive work and can speak well, convince people and get work done too. These days one would encounter a lot of such Leaders in your life. No, I’m not talking about Political Leaders. The focus is on real Leaders who inspire us with their lives and their words. Business entrepreneurs, Sports Persons, Few Politicians….. The list goes on. But not just these high profile candidates, this category of people are present in every walk of life. And Not just that Any one of us can be one too! And our Country badly needs GOOD LEADERS!

Bottom Line: – Be it category 1 or 2 – Talkers or Doers, they both are at the end of the day winners.  Being in the category of Leaders is what everyone should strive for. But definitely ensure that you are not in the category of Losers!

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Born to Win

I follow certain weird philosophies and principles in my life. Often people do not understand but still mostly I stand for what ‘I’ believe is true. And it has been always a pleasure for me to get criticized by people in what I do. Because that is something else that I strongly believe, – ‘Criticism brings out the best in me’.

So let me slip into the shoes of a philosopher ! Caution : If you realize it is going be to non sense . Please stop reading this…. :p

Criticism for me is divided into two categories – creative and non creative. But let it belong to any of these classes it always can help some one if he/she knows how to take it in the right sense. Oh No ! I’m not trying to make a statement that I know how to take all that in the right sense. But being inspired by so many of the books about positive thinking, I would like to always associate such criticism with my success every time.

The creative class of criticism is from individuals who actually know what they are talking. They do not mean it personal. They show the maturity to point out your mistakes – sometimes in public or otherwise in secret. However they just not point the finger at you but rather tell you how to improve from then on. These type of criticism often one gets from parents, authorities, good friends etc. Their aim is not to defame you rather they actually want things to be better. To tackle such comments and people is very simple. The Golden rule is ‘Shed your ego’ and ‘Listen’. You need not follow or take every word of the critic but rather you listen and think to make changes.

The second class of criticism – the non creative and unproductive criticism comes from the losers of the group or society. It is rooted mainly in jealous, hatred and other ‘unholy’ virtues. There is no harm lending your ears to such critics. Often people hate to listen to such people and rather try to push those critics even down. But my style is little different though ! I love to listen to such critics who have lost badly. It is actually not criticism but it is cribbing in its purest form that they unleash. Never mind, take these with a light heart and over a period of time you will enjoy these words. You will actually realize these so called critics are trying so hard to find fault with you and as a result they end up praising you indirectly. Let me explain, often as these people have no clue about what they are talking they will soon shift to insulting you in what you are good at. The jealousy and hatred slowly will pour down from their hearts and even the listeners and audience will soon realize you are still the Hero. And of course from such criticism and negative cheering derive some positive energy which would ensure you are still on the top of table.

Never ever bother to fight back to some one who is desperately trying to put you down. Because if you do so, you are showing you are as cheap and mean as your friend. So rather help him come out his ego. In the true biblical way which seldom people follow keep that smile still on face and help him come out of his loosing habit. Probably then you gain your friend back who gives you creative criticism only

And in Malayalam they say “Manga ulla mavel mathrame allukal kal eriyukaullu” (People throw stones only at the tree with fruits)

So if everyone targets you My Boy ! Sit back and enjoy ! Know that you are the star  !

Also, Ensure that people still throw stones at you

because you are born to win ! not to loose and crib !

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