I follow certain weird philosophies and principles in my life. Often people do not understand but still mostly I stand for what ‘I’ believe is true. And it has been always a pleasure for me to get criticized by people in what I do. Because that is something else that I strongly believe, – ‘Criticism brings out the best in me’.
So let me slip into the shoes of a philosopher ! Caution : If you realize it is going be to non sense . Please stop reading this…. :p
Criticism for me is divided into two categories – creative and non creative. But let it belong to any of these classes it always can help some one if he/she knows how to take it in the right sense. Oh No ! I’m not trying to make a statement that I know how to take all that in the right sense. But being inspired by so many of the books about positive thinking, I would like to always associate such criticism with my success every time.
The creative class of criticism is from individuals who actually know what they are talking. They do not mean it personal. They show the maturity to point out your mistakes – sometimes in public or otherwise in secret. However they just not point the finger at you but rather tell you how to improve from then on. These type of criticism often one gets from parents, authorities, good friends etc. Their aim is not to defame you rather they actually want things to be better. To tackle such comments and people is very simple. The Golden rule is ‘Shed your ego’ and ‘Listen’. You need not follow or take every word of the critic but rather you listen and think to make changes.
The second class of criticism – the non creative and unproductive criticism comes from the losers of the group or society. It is rooted mainly in jealous, hatred and other ‘unholy’ virtues. There is no harm lending your ears to such critics. Often people hate to listen to such people and rather try to push those critics even down. But my style is little different though ! I love to listen to such critics who have lost badly. It is actually not criticism but it is cribbing in its purest form that they unleash. Never mind, take these with a light heart and over a period of time you will enjoy these words. You will actually realize these so called critics are trying so hard to find fault with you and as a result they end up praising you indirectly. Let me explain, often as these people have no clue about what they are talking they will soon shift to insulting you in what you are good at. The jealousy and hatred slowly will pour down from their hearts and even the listeners and audience will soon realize you are still the Hero. And of course from such criticism and negative cheering derive some positive energy which would ensure you are still on the top of table.
Never ever bother to fight back to some one who is desperately trying to put you down. Because if you do so, you are showing you are as cheap and mean as your friend. So rather help him come out his ego. In the true biblical way which seldom people follow keep that smile still on face and help him come out of his loosing habit. Probably then you gain your friend back who gives you creative criticism only
And in Malayalam they say “Manga ulla mavel mathrame allukal kal eriyukaullu” (People throw stones only at the tree with fruits)
So if everyone targets you My Boy ! Sit back and enjoy ! Know that you are the star !
Also, Ensure that people still throw stones at you
because you are born to win ! not to loose and crib !
Jino Joy Kayyalackal 